Hey there momma! First time pregnancy? This can be a time of so many unknowns & unanswered questions. If you’re feeling a little overwhelmed, don’t worry – that’s normal! First, this is a big change in your life! Second, your hormones are going CRAZY! and third, there is a lot to do before your little one arrives. But, there is no need to stress. You have 9 months to prepare. Hopefully I can help guide you through your pregnancy with some advice. So, start by taking a deep breath – everything is going to come together and at the end of all of it, you get to meet your little one!
Let’s try to cover all of the bases you will go through in the next 9 months. From what you can and should be eating, to exercise, to baby shower advice…and everything in between!
Welcome to pregnancy, momma! The roller coaster of emotions can be really frustrating during these 9 months. You are going to have A LOT of highs and lows during these next 9 months. Just know, all of it is normal. Even those mixed emotions about being pregnant. You body is going through a lot of changes and your hormones are on overdrive. So chances are you are going to be happy, sad, anxious, excited, scared, uncertain and possibly depressed during your pregnancy.
My advice? Don’t be hard on yourself & overthink things. Take it one day at a time. If you need to, take it one hour at a time. Share how you are feeling, don’t keep it all to yourself. Find a girlfriend to talk to. Talk with your husband. Talk with your mom. Just don’t keep it all to yourself! Eating right & working out can also help dramatically! Even if it is just taking a walk outside for a half hour, that can really help lift your spirit.
So don’t let yourself become even more upset when you have mixed feelings about being pregnant. This won’t last.
When it comes to being pregnant and your diet, you have probably heard A LOT of things. You can’t eat this, and this and this and you should stay away from this and this. And then try and limit this.
It can be a little overwhelming. My advice? Pay attention to what you are eating & everything in moderation.
So, yes, there are a couple things you should stay away from while you are pregnant. What is going to happen if you end up eating something you shouldn’t? Most likely, nothing. But definitely stay away from alcohol and try your best to stay away from cold deli meat, shusi, unpasteurized milk/cheese and raw eggs. Try to limit the amount of caffeine and fish you eat too.
Overall, just eat a well-balanced diet. Get your daily amount of grains, vegetables, fruit and protein. And be sure to take your prenatal vitamins. This is very important not only to supplement those vitamins you are missing in your diet but also to make sure your baby is developing the way it should! If you are looking for some natural prenatal vitamins, here is a list of some of the best prenatal vitamins.
Exercise and pregnancy can be really hard. For the first few months you might feel too tired to work out. The second and third trimester you might feel too big to be working out. My advice? Try your best to workout throughout your pregnancy. This doesn’t have to be anything intense, just a walk can do the trick. If you are feeling up to it though, you can continue with your normal workout routines. Just don’t be introducing anything new or be doing any exercises that involve your core. Just be smart about what you are doing. If you are questioning if you should be doing it, you probably shouldn’t. Otherwise, ask your doctor.
But, I promise, if you do some sort of exercise while you are pregnant, you will feel so much better! Especially in the last trimester when it is harder to get around, it helps to just take walks. This will help you stay in shape, help boost your emotions and help prepare your body for delivery. It can help get the baby moving!
Baby Shower/ Baby Registry
Since this is your first pregnancy, you are probably looking at having a baby shower and registering. Again, this can seem like an overwhelming task. Take it one step at a time. My advice? Make sure you have all of your bases covered for registering and don’t be afraid to register for the big ticket items. Also, don’t worry if you don’t get everything off of your registry. That doesn’t mean you aren’t prepared for your baby. You still have time. Even if your baby arrives before you get everything. Newborns don’t need much to start! Just make sure you have diapers, clothes and some other of the basics (I’ll talk about that more below – see my other posts).
If you are looking for places to register, I outlined the best baby registries here. Pay attention to where you are registering. Some places offer a free gift box for registering with them and a discount on those items that were not purchased off of your registry!
If you are looking for what to register for, the “must-haves”, and to make sure you have all of your bases covered, see my post here. I outline all of the categories you will need to register, the products you will want and some of the best products I registered for and LOVED.
This is a really hard one for most women, myself included. Especially if this is your first pregnancy. It’s hard to just watch that number on the scale continue to go up. Normally this is something you don’t want! But in this case, you want to be gaining weight. So try not to take it so hard. My advice? Don’t focus so much on the number on the scale. Make sure you are eating right, working out & taking care of your body. After you have your baby, your body will go back to normal. Yes, it is going to take time. It took your body 9 months to get where is it at, so it is going to take some time to get it back to where it was before you got pregnant.
So don’t get caught up in it. On average, you should be gaining about 25 pounds during your pregnancy. This will, of course, differ for each woman. If you want, you can talk with your doctor about a more specific number for your body. But again, don’t get so wrapped up in the numbers. You want to make sure your body is getting enough food and nutrients so that your baby can grow healthy and the way it should. This is not a time to diet and watch what you are eating.
Again, since this is your first pregnancy, you are probably thinking about your options when it comes to taking birthing classes. There are so many options available to you. You can take them through the hospital, online, books, combination of these, etc. My advice? Pick what you are comfortable with. People have a lot of advice, but this is your pregnancy and you have to do what you feel most comfortable with. Just because you don’t take classes at a hospital doesn’t mean that you aren’t prepared for your baby. I didn’t take any birthing classes and I preferred it that way! For me, I can know “too much”. So in those hospital classes, I wasn’t sure I wanted to know EVERYTHING and freak myself out. I still prepared by listening to podcasts and birthing stories. I found this to be so much more helpful!
If you want to read more about that, you can see my post here. But again, do what works best for you!
Your Pregnancy, Your Baby, Your Way
Again, people have A LOT of opinions! It doesn’t matter what you are talking about, someone will have their own opinion about it. What you should be eating, exercise, vaccinations, spankings, where you should deliver, what products you should be using, YOU NAME IT. My advice? Listen to other people. Especially other moms. They can help SO much. Becoming a mom can feel like a very lonely journey sometimes, so don’t go through it alone. BUT, also be able to make your own decisions. So, listen to what others have to say but make your own, educated decisions. This is YOUR baby, do what is best for you and your baby…no matter what others think. You can truly benefit from what others have to say since the may have already gone through what you are going through. But what the ended up doing may not be what is best for YOU and YOUR little one.
Hopefully you are feeling a little better about this journey you are on. My overall advice is don’t be overwhelmed, anxious or worrisome. What does it benefit you to do any of those? Nothing! Take it one step at a time. If you have any questions or feedback, leave a comment below!
All the best,